Yep, you've got the ingredients for a good screen play there! Big LOL!
Quote: I did actually think about putting all his stuff in the big box and pitching it out and changing the locks. I really did. my next thought was he has so darn much stuff it would take forever!
MHO- no need to pack everything at once in order to have the desired effect! And why pay for a locksmith when you know he will be coming back?
Quote: It hadnt occured to me that maybe his "put-downs" are intended as sabotage...could be, that makes a lot of sense now that you mention it. And certainly they are a pretty obvious effort at justification for him.
He's scared because he sees you changing. What do these changes mean for him? "Hey, Deb's getting it all together. Is she about to leave me?" Now what do you do about that....nothing....absolutely nothing....you just keep on GAL. He will figure out that it's not a threat to him or your marriage.
Quote: "well how would you have reacted if I'd told you she needed me to help her out?"....
Again, trying to use YOU as a justification! "Hey, pal, I would have reacted about the same as you would have if I told you that I was helping my old BF pick out some new underwear!"
As far as unconditional love...you still love him, we all know that! LOL You just have to get your anger working for you instead of against you!
