What an awful way to spend the holiday. I am so sorry. I hope your son is doing well. What a yucky childhood memory this will be for him!
I was happy to read that you held H's his feet to the fire. I honestly don't think it does your H any good to let him go on behaving this way without consequences. And good for you for not taking his BS about everything being your fault. I think he's craving validation about that because then he can convince himself that it's true. Oh gosh, I wanted to slap him when I read about the weight loss comment! What a whiny baby, grasping at invisible straws! DO NOT take this comment to heart. It is his teenage nastiness coming to the surface. You have come such a long way and you ARE looking great. Don't let anything stop you! Did you ever consider that these kind of comments from him are an attempt at sabotage? Take some time to think about that....
Okay a little whack here for you....(you can take though, I know LOL) I do realize very well the turmoil that you felt in leaving the house....I do! BUT, I would advise you that next time you threaten you must follow through (or don't threaten at all). I think this sends false signals to him about your resolve. Kind of like "crying wolf". How about if this happens again...pack HIS bags? Why should you have to leave your home and your son?
Okay, here's another mini whack.....If it happens again try to stay calm, even though you are a wreck on the inside, staying calm will give you more credibility. Lose control, lose credibility.
Huge points with me though for staying strong. So sorry about the turmoil. Sit back for a couple of days, rest up, and monitor.
