Hi again dfb...I can't turn into a helpless wimp, I don't know how...although I think I need to work on letting go of some control.... H does hold doors open for me most of the time, and I always tell him thanks...I think it's sweet, although I know some women would be offended. I try to tell him thanks for a lot of little things he does. But I have trouble with the big time dependence stuff....I know ow chewed him out this fall because she needed help with her mother, thought she had a blood clot in her leg and ow had to carry her to the car, ow called h and evidently he wasnt around...duh...call an ambulance; summer before last h mowed her lawn because she could never start the lawnmower...duh....get a neighbor kid to do it or show you how....H took her new washing machine to her house....duh...the store she got it from has free delivery; h gave her money because she had an overdraft - duh, get a loan from relatives here in town or bank at a bank w/od protection; H gave her money because she hadnt eaten in days....duh, buy a few cans extra when you get paid so there's something in the cabinet, or get a sandwich from her mother or sister...the list goes on and on
The thing is, this is all so manipulative...and evidently H can't see it! It makes me want to barf!
However, I have to laugh, even H would say I can take care of things...tomorrow I'll have to tell about the time he went hunting and came home to a new dishwasher that I installed. Gotta go get S right now!
