Deb - I have one other thing to say. I know that you've spent so much time thinking about what to do about your H this year. I know that this past year, even before I got back together with the ex-b who is now my H, that I really wanted to start living my life, and not existing. I am glad with the way things turned out in my situation, but I was getting ready to really move on. Not just with other guys, but to make my life feel like it was really counting for something. Volunteering, looking at travelling again (I was going to get a better job), just making sure life was really meaningful. There are two things you can really count on in your life right now - okay, three. Yourself, your son, and God. Your H is a variable that you can't count on. You don't know what he'll do, and you can't control him one way or the other.

Do what you enjoy NOW. Find your hobbies, travel, spend great time with your son. I wish I had done it sooner, but I was working on it. Make sure you are doing what you can to make your life really count, and if your H wants to join you, make room. If not, then that is his problem.

Off of my soapbox. Don't worry about whether he emails you or not - go ahead and email and write to those who you care about who may want to hear from you.