I will never know what to do/how to play this chess game...
H is back to initiating ML....don't have a clue why he was "out of it" or why he's back...????
He did comment Friday, I think I posted about it, that he sometimes felt like he was checking into his parole/probation officer , So I have made a concentrated effort to be "backed off"....actually I was gone a good deal of the weekend trying to finish the christmas shopping I've let go...so I was home very little.
H got home from doing xmas shopping on Friday early in the afternoon, made a big point of telling me he was home as he'd said he would be...and sometime that day mentioned that he hadnt gone the Friday before because he knew it would upset me (ow was gone to a workshop; H was at home)...I never made any mention of ow/workshop, but obviously H knew without me saying that I knew and that it would be on my mind.

So, I am TRYING to drop the rope and focus on me...actually, Friday evening I spent 3 hours and an obscene amount of money having my hair professionally colored for the 1st time ever....H was pretty antsy when I got home, and wanted to know if that REALLY was the only place I went....
I like my hair...the gal did a "foil weave" and it's --get this--dark brown with blonde highlights....interesting change for me...H hasnt said much about it, except he did want to know what it cost. I have to admit I only told him what the hair cost, I didn't mention the cost of the shampoo/conditioner/clarifier and waxing....which the hair was about 1/2 of the total, and he still had a conniption.

S and I were gone Xmas shopping for about 5 hours yesterday, and H was doing his talk about calling the hospitals when we got home....I wonder if it even enters his head that I'm busy, and not worried about what he is/isn't doing w/ow?

So, now I need advice....
I havent had any email at all today from him, which is VERY unusual....should I play it cool and ignore him, or should I send him one? The DB coach did say maybe he needed to be a little less comfortable....yet I know he is so needy as far as affirmation, etc.

S has his musical program at school tonight, and H commented Saturday that "I won't miss this one for anything" and was asking me when it was because he was afraid some how he'd missed it...this really struck a chord with me as before H missed so many of them, he had to work on those evenings and would never take off. I always felt so sad sitting there alone. Not to mention how poor S felt. I'd like very much to think this is a good sign, and not just H's guilt coming into play.

been around awhile!