Quote: Also, we have a very good, very positive marriage in every other way.
BEWARE. This is almost always a lie you are telling yourself. To illustrate this think about what your reaction would be if you had a friend who said "Well, Hubby hits me when I get too sassy every once in a while, but other than that we have a great marriage.". If this seems like a poor analogy consider the fact that there were probably many, many women who thought this way back in the days when occasional wife beating was a more acceptable practice.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver