Have you read the book yet? There are two chapters in it that define you and your wife perfectly.
If you haven't read it, pick it up and both of you read it.
Oh, and welcome to the forum!
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.