My D13 is in the choir at her school. Her choir director is a very talented individual. All the parents leave the concerts feeling complete amazement at what she is able to achieve with our averagely talented bunch of kids. For the final semester of 8th grade this year, she decided to separate the 8th grade choir into a boy's choir and a girl's choir. My daughter told me that she made this decision because the boys were unable to do what you described in your analogy. They couldn't maintain their part of the performance and ignore the girl's part. I'm sure there is some sort of sexist sexual analogy one could draw from this anecdote, but it would probably only be relevant to teenagers.
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