Standing strong, but not going forward - quite yet

[MJontheMend]

I'm wondering if you have enough of a support system available for you. Do you have friends or advisors you can rely on to help you as you work your way forward? It seems like you'll have to be awfully brave to deal with this sich on your own.

Interestingly, my FIL is also much like my H, only worse, just like yours. My poor MIL has never been able to emotionally separate herself from him even though he left her almost 20 years ago. Just the other day he made her cry with an unkind remark on the telephone. At the depths of my despair last spring, I kept having the thought that I was becoming my MIL and I had to do whatever possible to save myself from the misery of that fate.