Finland is a 50/50, no contest state. Meaning (I've spoken to a lawyer about this), I can get him out of the house if I file, and he's responsable for child support, untill the D is final. Then, he's entitled to half the house, and unless I can buy him out, he's entitled to compensation (from me) for living in the house.

Even if I could somehow get him to agree to let me live here, expenses on this place are large. We've only been here 5 yrs, and have a large mortgage (read living to the extent of our means ). It's a big place, a bear to heat (though I think we could do better than we do if we - read H - were willing to invest a little)

Our kids don't go to the neighborhood school, they go about 3mi away to an English immersion school in the center.

Court, as I understand it, won't insist on anything different unless there are extenuating circumstances, whatever that means, and it's not very likely.

Of course, I suppose we could try to come to some agreement, but I'm not counting on H to agree to much of anything if it comes to this