FF, When I got to the point of somewhat not careing and somewhat Apathetic, most of the emotions in my conversation with my W almost disapeared. She noticed a change and made a comment about the change. I told her in a brotherly, instead of a spousal way, what I felt. Of course my W is a lot different than your H but she tells me what am really thinking when I tell her how I feel about a subject.
So, apathy on my part helped me not to feel bad when my W told me how i "REALLY" felt. I do not care how or what she said because I almost did not care. BTW it took 3 monts of not careing for W to say something about the change. I stayed friendly but backed off on the normal H/W talks. I know it is more difficult with children.
Weather related humor for all. When it's hot and sultry, is not the time for adultry. When the frost is on the pumpkin, it's time for peter dunkin.
(When it's (-22.00 degF = -30.00 degC)now what do I do?)