Looking backward...but only to move forward TWO

[sage]

I guess at this point it doesn't matter because the only thing I really want to talk about is our R and that gets me nowhere anyway!

Hmmm...do you think that h would be more open to conversation if you tipped the balance in favor of less controversial, more successful ones? IOW, if the great conversations (non-R talks) significantly outweigh the not-so-great ones, well, which do you think sticks in his mind? PLUS, you'll get practice conversing and listening to him.

Any suggestions?? I always tell myself I'm not going to cry but I always do! What did you do to stop??

Lots of things...first off, seriously understanding that crying while talking with h wasn't getting me ANY closer to my goal helped. I also meditate daily (which helps with recognizing and managing emotions), exercise as often as I can, delay conversations until I no longer feel emotional about the issue, avoid doing things (like snooping) that make me torqued up inside, etc. All little pieces that helped a great deal.

Sage