I don't want to pile up more doubt on top of everything, but I do want to address one issue that many of us have experienced, and by this I am NOT saying it is the case here, mind, you. Just thought it pertinent to what people have written.
From what I have read in so many places, including on this BB, the bomb is often preceded by a period of closeness, all manner of tokens of affection, assurances of love, lavish celebrations of anniversaries, buying of a new house. etc.
In my case, I recevied an email letter from H while he was abroad in February, addressed to me as "My wonderful wife", telling me about how he loved the project he was doing, and signing off "All my love". My H is not a lovey dovey sort normally, so the 'my wonderful wife' part was particularly notable, and I treasured that letter in my heart when I went abroad in turn in March/April. The bomb was dropped within an hour of my return from my travels.
The timimg of it was bewildering and had me completely blindsided. And of course, we had just bought our new house and moved in to it barely six months previously.
So, when reconciliation takes place, even when we hear the reassurances, is there not still a slight doubt that 'it doesn't mean or guarantee a thing'? How does one get over that one?
This is an open question, not directed only at Sage.
Sage, I think the fact that your H is consciously keeping you in the loop, is a positive.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
