I agree with Nevanna, too. Sounds like a vacation would be great.
Quote: I've been beating myself up a bit too because I feel like I've been mildly backsliding a bit on my post-bomb-behaviors -- nothing super bad but more like I've been talking more than listening (just a bit), querying h a bit too much instead of giving him space...the house is messy, I've been feeling more distracted, I've been too "me-centric" I think.
Now, all of this is just a "feeling" - like I can see myself when I'm having a conversation with him and I want to smack myself on the head! I think I just need to SLOW down more, ya know?
FWIW, I feel the same way sometimes--like I can see myself and there's this voice in my head telling me "don't do that" but I go ahead and do something that I know isn't productive and won't get me closer to my goal. And, afterwards, like a couple of weekends when I was terse with H and slammed the door when leaving, I feel like smacking myself in the head, too. I think Michele's advice to forgive and give the benefit of the doubt also applies to us DBers. We're human and imperfect (wouldn't you hate to live with somebody who's absolutely perfect and never ever makes any mistakes? ).
You're doing great, and your H's comment last night is something most of us would give just about anything to hear.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. C. S. Lewis
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