Looking backward...but only to move forward TWO

[sage]

Had a good night last night...we went to the gym since we didn't go in the AM -- definitely good to work out! Then we went out to Chili's right down the street for a beer and supper. I just had the second half of the veggie burger for lunch!

Went home and watched half of the USC game. I went to bed around 10pm. I haven't been sleeping well due to some cough medicine I've been taking but last night I didn't take it and slept like a rock. so much so that I didn't get up and go to the gym this AM (arrgh!) and we can't go tonight so that makes me irked at myself (and I'm feeling draggy!). Oh, well, more motivation for tomorrow AM!

h and I had some interesting chats yesterday. I'm definitely feeling more disclosure from him though I still have to admit (kicking myself) that I think he's always more open than I give him credit for. I think that my brain is so often running so far ahead and is filled with ASSumptions that I don't really "hear" him.

Anyway, somehow we got on the topic of how people often assume that someone who doesn't show their feelings or disclose them is "insensitive" or "unhurt" by events and that observation is essentially false. His point, I think, was that people judge others by what they themselves think they would do and make leaps and ASSumptions about how someone else feels/whether or not someone is hurting or impacted. The conversation was unrelated to US (it was actually about a singer that we heard on the radio) but could certainly have been applied to our R -- more so pre-DB'ing that post-DB'ing, I hope! I tend to be the "spill my guts" kind while h isn't so I've certainly done more than my share of ASSuming how he feels.

The other conversation was h giving me some awesomely positive feedback Yesterday AM h got some of his grades -- including one that he was NOT happy about at all (it was lower than he had hoped). He called me at work about it and we had a conversation -- I tried to be validating and supportive without discounting how he was feeling. Sometimes I really struggle with feeling good about how I did in those conversations! Anyway, during our supper, h toasted me and commented on how supportive I am and how he loves talking with me. He said I had said "just the right things" during the conversation. I told him that sometimes I worried about how I did and he said "the thing is, you let me know that I didn't let you down with my grades...you let me know how proud you are of me."

Yes, indeed!

I'm liking this good feeling quite a bit.

We're off to a museum tonight to see an Art Deco exhibit...then a myriad of potential plans (movie, quick dinner, who knows!).

Sage