As a LD coming to this board and reading what people were posting my first couple times I totally did not open my eyes and see what was being said. With so many people talking about sex sex sex and want of sex sex sex I thought I stumbled onto a website of sex crazed lunatics just like I felt my H was. Why because I do not put a great importance on sex and did not understand the importance of it to my relationship. So I related everyone on this board to being one step away from being a pedifile or rapist. I read post after post and all I saw was I want sex I am entitled to sex bad bad spouse for not wanting to give me sex. Hairdog and his post about his breast feeling adventure was what made me start opening my eyes to what was being said. Though it was funny as hell to read with his verbage after the tears of laughter dried came the realization of omg that is me with my H. And that was the begining of me being open to understand that my perception was jaded. Now take that inital response I had and if your wife is like me where she does not understand sex is just a front for your true emotional needs and she does not herself put that emphasis on sex. Add what Gel said and the fact that her life is out in cyber space for all to see and comment on. She may just feel a little overwhelmed at the moment. Give her a little space to maul it all over hopefully she will come back and re-read what you wrote and read between the lines of all the sex talk on this board. And see that there is more to it then just a want for endless orgasms but a want for understanding of our spouses and that we are all seeking a common ground of trying to meet our spouses needs while still finding away to meet our own needs. All the while fighting a battle since the dynamics of our needs are so different. You may suggest to her a certain persons thread that you feel she can relate to in a not overwhelming mannor if you find she has not yet visited the board. For me it was Hairdogs thread his humor of the situation at hand was refreshing since anger and threats are how things are handled by my H just the same situation handled differently was enough to let me put down my defenses enough to really look at the situation from a different perspective.
I hope things even out for you today and you don't have to sleep on the couch again tonight!
