I have leftovers - in fact, I'm heating 'em up in the microwave right now. Nah Nah Nah!
Be sure to check your freezers before you leave on your trip - we just returned from a 6 day vacation, and one of ours was not completely closed. Mmmmm...the wonderful aroma of hamburger patties that have thawed for 6 days. There are not enough scented candles and Lysol sprays in the world for that one.
Quote: Andddddddddd, before you even ask, no I have not withdrawn from speaking his love languages. I still do it, and it is from the heart. Spiritual discussions and all. I'm just not in the mood to strive for passion with him.
Yeah, I figured that out. Good for you (and him)! Honey, you do have a good vacation. I think you'll be fine, and maybe, just maybe you'll find that LD honeypot isn't quite right either (I know you aren't exactly feeling LD, just LmrHPD). Maybe you are just finding a newer healthier balance in your life. Wow, 2 weeks of vacation. Now that does sound nice, esp. since you have no expectations set as far as sexathons go. Just think, there is no way you can come back dissappointed . Don't forget to check in with the rest of us when you do get back!
Oh, and the food thing...that's what restaurants are for. you and MrHP deserve a nice night out, even if it is with the vomitosaurus (hopefully that has subsided by now and wasn't contagious). If it is contagious, well I guess you'll deal with that when it comes up.
C'mon Chrissy, can't you open up and share your feelings?
I know I need to work on this opening up and really saying what I mean to people. I just am always afraid that I will hurt someones feelings. Maybe someday I will learn how to just say it as I see it.
The dinner sounded devine. The horses well there were just helping make sure everyone was good and hungry when dinner got served.Lol My H cooks for me often not the feast you or Honey discribed. But I gotta tell ya he makes the best darn kraft mac and cheese in town! And the kids love his mash potatoes with cheese He is even great on the grill for Steaks Hamburgers and Hotdogs. One day he may even try chicken lol. Not complaining though when we first met it was hamburger helper or hamburger helper on the menu. Wow just realized that is a growth thing chalk one up for my H.(long story).
Quote: Not complaining though when we first met it was hamburger helper or hamburger helper on the menu. Wow just realized that is a growth thing chalk one up for my H.(long story).
Hamburger Helper? Why do they call it Hamburger Helper, it tastes just fine the way it is!
I don't cook very often, and have a limited list of items that I can actually make without a fire extinguisher being called for (spaghetti, tacos, toast). I do make her Eggs Benedict from time to time, and anything that comes in a box. Actually preparing an entire meal from scratch is a pretty rare event.
I actually don't mind doing it, but it sure is time-consuming and tiresome. Really makes you appreciate what the spouse who regularly cooks goes through!
Haven't watched the Dr. Phil episode or written the letter my C suggested. W is putting in suicide hours at work - up at 5, work till 6-8, come home and work several more hours. I've decided that discretion is the better part of keeping all of my dangly bits intact, and will wait until work slacks up to discuss with her. What's a few more days, right?
During a discussion with the W about our problems, she commented that "if we had sex, you would think everything was fine...that's the only thing you think is a problem." I disagreed, and said that I recognized that we had some other problems. She didn't believe that, so I mentioned that I have been coming here to this BB to share my thoughts & feelings. The next morning, I sent her an e-mail with a link to the SSM board, and told her that if she wanted to know how I was thinking/feeling, she could come here to see. She hasn't responded to the mail or commented about the BB yet, so I don't know if she's visited yet.
Very good. My H unfortunalty did think we were fixed when I started being more active sexually. Talk about a slap in the face. But not all people are that shallow. My H would have never came here or looked for any others insight or advice without feeling he was forced to. I think it is awesome that you encouraged her to come here and see your personal thoughts. To share with her the issues you see as important and to let her see that you are also addressing more then just one issue. Hope all goes well and she sees that you are putting a great effort into trying to work through and understand the dynamics with in your relationship
I hope it (asking her to visit the SSM board) will be a positive thing, but last night, something happened that makes me question whether it was a good idea.
Around 11:00, I was in my office just finishing up messing around on the computer, and I checked the SSM board before heading off to bed. When I left my office, I saw my W standing outside the door with a strange look on her face. I asked her what was up, but she didn't say anything. Doing the mental math, I figured that she had seen me on the board, and (after having visited sometime earlier yesterday) she didn't like the idea. So I asked her if she had any thing she wanted to say. She didn't - but while she was turning out the lights in the kitchen (where we were having the one-sided conversation), I jokingly pointed out that she might break the paper towel holder she was using to operate the light switch (I had just broken our previous paper towel holder a couple of days before by dropping it). She said "I'm not a moron," and left the room. I asked "moron?" and she said "m..o..r..o..n" while leaving the room. I commented that I knew how it was spelled, and followed a bit behind her. She went into our bedroom and locked the door behind her, locking me out. My attempts to get her to talk or open the door didn't work, so I slept on the couch. We had some arguments earlier in the day, so maybe that was what was on her mind - but the timing makes me think she visited the board, and didn't care for what she saw.
I've tried to be as honest as possible about our sitch, as well as my thoughts & feelings, so I hope she's not looking at it as my using this as an anonymous way to complain about her without her being able to counter anything I've said. I'll try to find out tonight what is driving this behavior.
You said...(so I hope she's not looking at it as my using this as an anonymous way to complain about her without her being able to counter anything I've said.)
Aaaahhh, but she does have a way to counter anything you've said....you joined this board, she could too.
Perhaps she did visit this board, perhaps some things hit close to home too. Sometimes people get angry when their flaws/insecurities/fears/downfalls are brought out in the open. Give her some time, let her think about what she's read if you do feel she visited the board. Ask her what she thinks about you posting on here...and invite her to do the same. She may not wish to participate, but then again she just might.
. Don't forget to check in with the rest of us when you do get back!
