Quote: I'd love to just print out everything here, or e-mail it to the counselor, and say "read this". Would save us a lot of time, I think.
Do it. I've done this and it does save time. At those prices (I have no insurance and write a check for $165 for every session) time is of the essence.
I would have to say having your spouse "parade" around you would be far worse. Was it something he was doing deliberately to tease you? That would be exceptionally cruel.
I have no idea what he was doing. Might have just been unconsious on his part. He used to put his clothes in the dining room that he was going to wear the next day. After showering in the morning he would dress in the dining room. It started to look like the dining room was a closet. We argued about that quite often. I hated it and wanted the dining room to look like it was a place to dine. Finally this past spring I Moved everything in there and painted the walls and cleaned up the table and threatened him if he put stuff back on it. Still could not get him to eat at the table though until just recently I started sitting in there by myself and eating. We have been eating in there for over a week now LOL. Still can't get him to turn the TV off during meals though, so he still sits in there and looks over my shoulder to see it lol
Grem, if the C has a problem with this, I would have a problem with the C. It's your nickel, you set the agenda. There's no virtue in spending the first three sessions just getting background info IMHO. Karen, how do you feel about this?
That's certainly "unusual" behavior. I end up dressing in the closet a lot of the time, but that's to avoid having to turn on the bedroom lights if my S is sleeping and also just in case the girls walk in. But keeping the clothes in another room...just seems odd.
I think it was pretty much pure laziness lol Like putting clothes in the closet or dresser just to get them out again was too much trouble. But yet, he used to be such a total perfectionest before like he couldn't sleep if even a fork or something was in the sink when he went to bed.
We have no children at home, so its just he and I, no threat of anyone else seeing him naked. He can be "odd" at times, guess that was one of the times. anyway, I got him to put most of his stuff back in the bedroom, except his flannel sleep pants which he changes into when he is settled in for the night. Those he still leaves in the dining room, but now on the seat of a chair. What I cannot figure out is years ago he moved out of the bedroom and into the spare room. Fixed it up the way he wanted and he still sleeps in there (once in a while on a weekend he will sleep in my room) but his clothes are still in my room. Go figure that one. Maybe its his way of still laying claim to me. Keeping his clothes in my room makes him feel like everything is still ok?
I have tried to talk to him about sleeping with me, and sometimes on the weekend he does, but the dogs all pile in the bed too, and just last weekend one of them all but pushed me out of the bed and I ended up getting up and sleeping in the other bed. I cannot get him to put them up at night. That, to him, is non negociable.
annette wrote {{but the dogs all pile in the bed too, and just last weekend one of them all but pushed me out of the bed and I ended up getting up and sleeping in the other bed. I cannot get him to put them up at night. That, to him, is non negociable}}
annette, want to play monopoly? I will trade my W to your H.
I can't get the dogs and cats out of the bed either. W even pets them when we have sex. I would call it ML but that takes two people.
I rub her back, she pets the dog! UGH! What is it with these people? Are they only secure around pets?
OG Lou. Wanting to know why the dogs and cats can't be on the floor for a half hour once in a while?
When the old dog was still alive (he died back in February) we had to keep the 2 male doggies separated because they would fight violently. The 2 younger doggies stayed in the other part of the house and at night were crated. The 2 older ones were in the part where the bedrooms are and they would at least sleep on the foot of the bed. Now that the old one is gone, there are 3, count em, 3 dogs that all sleep out at night now. There is hardly room in the bed for both adults, much less 3, 50 lb dogs. Ugggggggggggggg
annette. W's two scotties no problem size wise, but the interaction between the dogs and W leaves me feeling like a third party. W had a 125# dog that slept on the bed with the scotties. Now that was a problem.
The 125# dog snapped at GD2 so he had to go. A single lady has him. Very good adult's dog that did not like kids pulling his hair.
I like dogs but they should have their place in the family, not be the center of the family. I know some dog lovers will take issue with my opinion of a dog's family position.
Too bad these dogs frist people didn't find each other before we married them.
