Gremlin, I think we need some more information . . .
JUST KIDDING!
The good news: you don't have any children together; you're not a sexual pervert; joint financial obligations are no problem for two highly-paid divorce lawyers to take care of; you found this website; you seem like a decent guy.
The bad news: your wife seems like a control freak (grabbing the book from you and locking herself in the bedroom -- sheesh!); your wife denies that she is at fault (except when it briefly is to her advantage when keeping you at bay); she is an expert at smokescreening.
Smokescreens: who cares that you slept with prostitutes while in the Navy, prior to meeting her? Frankly, the fact that she didn't tell you about her STD until after your marriage is a MUCH bigger sin to me. Herpes, the gift that keeps on giving. Who cares that you jack off while watching porno? At least you're not doing it while watching "Leave it to Beaver." (But you might have to trash the DVD just to show her that you won't grow up to be just like your daddy.)
It's too bad that she won't go to counseling with you. Typical narcissistic behavior. They don't want anyone telling them that they might be partially at fault -- especially a professional.
Advice: Stick around here, get advice from all of us, get the book back from the book-snatcher, get a book-cover so that the kiddies can't see what you're reading, and realize that YOU DESERVE A HAPPY LIFE WITH PLENTY OF INTIMACY, LOVE, AND YES, SEX.
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