Thanks for the advice. I am afraid that my emotions got the better of me. She lost the card and tickets ($100.00) that I got her for Christmas and that got me upset. I brought up the fact that I knew she had new perfume and that I felt that it was a gift from OM. She denied it but didn't freak out. Anyway things have taken a turn for the worse. Tonight we went out for drinks and appetizers with BIL and SIL. On the way home I asked if she would like to be intimate. She replied yes. When we got home I locked our bedroom door. The kids were down stair and she said that she did not feel comfortable. I said ok. I then told her that I did not want to ML but wanted to let her know that I would like to ML more than we have been. She blew up at this. She basically feels that she is tired of what I want and that this is about her. She said that she feels that if I want to ML then she feels pressured into doing it. I asked if she just wanted me to stop ever trying but she didn't answer. I know I am not perfect but she is seeing the world through some strange glasses. She told me that she pray's every day to God and that she wishes she was dead. I told her that I think it is the devil talking to her but she laughed me off. I have made some serious changes over that last 5 months but if I ever ask if her resentment for me is going away she consistantly says "What you think it is going to just go away in a week".
She feels that she has to do whatever I say. I don't think that is the reality but that is how she see's it. Here is another example. We talked about taking our kids to a movie while we are on vacation. Today I asked her if she wanted to go. She said that she might go to her Mothers. I said ok but if she wanted we could adjust the time and she could go to her mothers first or whatever. One of my children asked what time we were going to the movie and I said I am not sure as I don't know what Mom is doing yet. She brought that up tonight after she got into her tirade. She said she felt like she to go or else I would be pissed about it. I told her I would have been disappointed but only because I wanted her to go. She wont dicuss her feelings. She says they don't matter to me. I would't ask her if it didn't matter. The alien has her good and I am scared.
Do you think that she is MLC?
We got married because she was pregnant at 23 years old. She likes to bring that up negatively. She looks at a lot of the past negatively. Especially our D16 who was born then. LOL for our S13.
I can't believe I am the source of her unhappiness. Her biggest fear is that she will stay in the marriage and be unhappy.
