I just joined also and am looking for help. My sitch is different from yours as H has moved in with OW but I snooped often and found all sorts of things unlike you I didn't have help and confronted H about it and let me tell you he blow his stack and I lost ground. Sportster is right about not admitting what you did. Just learn what the OM does and top it or overlook it. If she is hidding it she can't think that much of it. My H does tell me what his OW gives him and ask what I think so feel lucky she isn't that far gone yet. The materials help if you read them often and can follow them when she's around. Never give up hope. How are the kids dealing with her and you living in the same house with this going on? Put them first and worry about her later when they are there. She will always be their mom and they need that reassurance from you. That will work in your favor also. She wont like the fact you are supporting her with her children and she missed it. Then you can tell her that you want no hard feelings for her from the kids and that you love her and think they need to know that and she will feel some comfort in the fact.
