9. Touched base with some old friends I hadn't talked to in a while.
10. Started seeing a counselor.
11. Have started getting the kids health care caught up.
12. Tried agility with Tara.
13. Hosted two small parties at my new house by myself.
14. Got a home equity loan on my house.
15. Enrolled Frostbyte in an obedience class that starts in January.
16. Survived and I think handled pretty well, settlement conference at the courthouse, when thought no way I could do that.
17. Drove to Louisville and parked in parking garage for the Christmas play.
18. Hired two different attorneys.
19. Hired moveing company to move part of my stuff, not something I would have been able to do in the past.
20. Called and talked to D's attorney's assistant twice, this last time about getting FB's papers signed for me, since D no longer communicates at all.
21. Climbed the ladder and got in the attic to get my Christmas stuff from the house on PK.
22. Went shopping for blinds by myself, picked and ordered some dealing with the sales person.
23. Have finally detached from D and realized that all the problems in our marriage weren't caused by me!!!!!!!!!
24. Had some up and down dealings with G as I discovered some communication problems that I have that I have carried forward and worked to deal with him more directly to address my communication issues and not damage our friendship.
25. Got my van repaired this summer and this fall got new tires for my car.
26. Partially dealt with the salesman at the car dealership where dad bought the van
I know this isn't really an accomplishment. BUT I stood up to my ex friend when I did what I did in my van at PK. The cowardly Pam that always ran would never have done what I did, even though I can't remember deciding to do it.
The incident I feel like had a galvanizing 'impact' on my life.
I had to find another A, his wife just happened to be friendly and going to school to be a C. She directed me to the counseling service I called about starting to see a C and she has been helpful several times since. We may go out for lunch tomorrow!
So even though it was D*MN expensive, just under $4,000.00, she went to a dealership for repairs and I'm sure had an expensive rental. It has had some positives come out of it.
I am looking at it as that is the $4,000.00 that D gave me in the settlement. So in a sense he paid for my incident with his tramp!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
on my life.
