Life, One Chapter at a Time

[sage]

Pam --

I do intend to do the homework. I just have had so much going on that I just didn't feel I had the time to sit down and give it the thought it deserves.

I agree with Trish that this doesn't have to be an all out big time effort -- spend a few minutes here and there. I like the idea of setting aside some specific time during the day.

I guess it seems a very slow process and she only gets bits and pieces and is that going to get me anywhere?

Well, where are you trying to go?

How about invoking some patience, Ms. Pam? Go along for the ride for a bit, see where it takes you. Aren't you already learning some things about yourself? Don't you think that she is, too?

The way D and J have came up is in connection with me trying to get some closure on that situation.

Yes...and I know that you can't avoid all mention...only point I was getting at was to spend as much of your 45 minutes talking about things that are controllable by YOU. I had a C once who was fascinated with my younger sister (based on things that I had told her) and it didn't take long until THAT was the focus of our meetings...not me...not my sitch. I'm just suggesting focusing on your feelings/actions and not trying to diagnose/dwell on D or J.

I am not sure that she is solution based. That is also a concern for me.

I wasn't trying to raise it as a concern so much as being curious...I WILL say that giving you homework is a GOOD sign, IMHO.

Sage