Actually I STILL have not done my homework! I told her so tonight when I went in for my session. She said you mean you can't just sit there and tell me one thing you like about yourself? I said no, but when I'm in the right mood I am sure I can come up with something. She said that is sad and must be difficult to live that way. I said well, it does make it hard to accept that people genuinuely like you if you don't like yourself and I'm sure it didn't help D and I's relationship any either.
We talked about D some and she said that he sounds, based on what I have told her, like someone who hasn't figured out his own self identity, so it probably didn't all happen to him to lose himself in our marriage.
She also said J doesn't sound too healthy either.
Said she hates to see me keep beating myself up over what did I do wrong in my marriage when it was two of us and that if we were to have reconciled it would not have been healthy for either of us if he hadn't also done lots of self introspection and work on himself.
It helps to have her say it wasn't all my fault! D always made it out to be all my problem.
I still leave my sessions feeling I was all over the place and yet didn't cover any ground either! I am not sure how to improve that for next time. The sessions are 45 minutes and I talk too much I guess I need to write out what I want to cover before I ever get there and then stick to it. But sometimes when we digress I discover something I had no idea of. So what do I do?
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
I said well, it does make it hard to accept that people genuinuely like you if you don't like yourself and I'm sure it didn't help D and I's relationship any either. 
