Good morning Pam - glad to see you have started a new thread - seems that JJ locks us out at the most inopportune time. How are you doing and how are the shets?
Got a letter from J's insurance company and called my A's office about it. They said fax it over and he would call and talk with them.
What he found out was the repairs were around $3800.00 and she had a rental from 11/22 through 12/2 that they didn't have the bill on yet so don't have the final total. How nice her van went in the shop over the holiday so parts probably didn't get shipped or her van worked on. My now suspicious nature regarding her wonders if she timed it that way to have the rental for the longest possible time frame to run the bill up. My A said that repair bill was higher than he expected. I said I had no doubts that she would find the most expensive place she could to have the repairs done.
I called my A's office Friday but he didn't call back. His son said the insurance company had called and wanted to know if I or my insurance were taking care of the bill. I asked why does it matter? No idea yet. Planning to call A's office again today.
As of 12/06 the Prosecutors office still didn't have the report on the accident at PK. So still no idea what will happen on that front.
Also still no idea if J will try to sue for any sort of medical. She told the officer at the scene that no one was injured. Hopefully she will drop it.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
The kids and I are now starting to get back into some activities. Shara has now had 3 herding lessons and has another one this coming Saturday. She LOVES playing with the sheep.
The lady giving the lessons said she would have no trouble getting her first level herding title, and she keeps trying to talk me into taking her to the Sheltie Nationals next year. I checked and it is in St. Louis so not a bad drive for me. They only have herding one day so Shara would need to qualify on both sheep and ducks to finish her title at the Nationals. Which would be really cool! So her next herding lesson we are going to work on ducks as well as the sheep.
Tara has been to an agility lesson. The lady doing them is the one who is going through the mess with her ex long time friend and her soon to be ex H. She has a son out of Tara that she has put an Agility Championship on so she is a good one to be helping with Tara. Would be neat if Tara were ready to do first level agility at the Nationals if I am already there for Shara next year.
Frostbyte will be starting obedience classes in January. No way to have him ready by April as I don't plan to rush him!
Shimmer isn't doing anything yet, and I don't have anything lined up for him yet. But kicking some ideas around on trying tracking with him. That gives all of the kids something to do. Breeze has already done her stuff and now just oversees.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
BTW, won't your insurance company have a "expected cost" figure re. the repairs to the van? They definitely do in our state...they would figure out if the amount seems off the wall.
Have a great day! Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Pam - why aren't you turning this over to the insurance company? It's too large a bill and too much potential liability to handle on your own, unless there is no way you can claim it was accidental.
And yes, D is an a$$ and I have always thought so.
I have been feeling pretty grounded lately and I think I am ready for closure. Seeing how ugly he was this morning helped that even more.
My C had said that him having J at our house was a big lack of respect on his part.
I guess the picture that he is very good at presenting is the one I believed in and isn't the acutal person on the inside. Well, to be more gray! That the picture he presents is only the golden boy side! That is what his brother says he always was to their parents. But there is another side that is stronger than I would have ever guessed it would be. He presents a really great front.
I can't turn the claim in as she has witnesses that it was deliberate. That is why it is going to the prosecutor and I have no idea what will happen, but apparently D and probably J want me in jail over it. That still hurts from D, but I hope it helps me even more to grieve it and move on.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
What else that is going on for the kids and I is we are driving a 2001 van now. Actually my dad owns it and I am driving it right now, but hope to end up with it being ours eventually when PK sells.
The one I wrecked in the incident at PK has over 200,000 miles on it and also has engine problems. I would have been afraid to go to the shows I am hoping to go to next year in it.
The van seems very nice so far. Hopefully it is dependable and the kids and I start doing things and focusing on the future.
I really can't change the past and dealing with D just keeps getting uglier. I had no idea he was like this, but I think that goes with what LNL posted on my last thread.
Quote: "No race has understood quite as clearly as the Greeks how character is destiny, or how our very achievements can stem from the same source as crime."
I seem to recall reading one time that every personality trait has a good side and a bad side, it is just now all I am being shown is the bad side so maybe it seems worse than it truly is in actuality.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
She has a son out of Tara that she has put an Agility Championship on so she is a good one to be helping with Tara. Would be neat if Tara were ready to do first level agility at the Nationals if I am already there for Shara next year. 
