H phones last evening, there was some doubt about whether the landlord and family were going up for the weekend as the wife had to have some surgery. H said he would let me know today.

Next week is H's birthday. I don't know any more whether to mark it in any way or not. Last year I gave him a card, just before he went off to OW2's country and started R with her.

Last year on my birthday he happened to be spending the night here the night before. In the morning, D made a card and got H to sign it. H made pancakes for breakfast, then headed off into town. He COULD have suggested having lunch out or something, but didn't. (In fact, I think I cautiously brought up the possibility, but H said he was busy...) Basically, if it hadn't been D cajoling him, he would have ignored it totally from his side. I must say, it didn't surprise me, but it did hurt that he could actually be in the house and yet so uninterested. My birthday the previous year was only a couple of days after the bomb, and we went out to eat, but I only managed to swallow a couple of mouthfuls....

Any thoughts on this? I don't know if OW2 (the bad rash ) will still be around.

Also, H will turn 45, yet keeps saying he is nearly 50! So perhaps I need to steer clear of age related cards?? (How about one with "Now you are nearly 100!! )

Should I remind D about it and encourage her to do something for him? He doesn't do the same in reverse. This is where I have a problem of things usually being one way.

Otherwise, things are chugging along. My friend has been here since Sunday and it is nice to have company.

Livnlearn

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates