How about this for a plan.

* No pursuit, invitations or R talk for the next three months.

* Small acts of kindness or affection, like sending a card for his birthday, sharing a joke by email etc.

* Accept any lunch invitations etc from H.

* Keep busy and especially at weekends when D is with him.

* Be mysterious. Buy flowers regularly (doubles up under 'pamper myself'! ) Do not always pick up the phone straight off. Talk about summer holiday plans...

* Get a contract - that would certainly impress H, my prophet of doom. I have a couple of leads to follow up.

* Bite the bullet re: finances - ask H to make an appointment to take my name off of joint account, set up standing order for mortgage etc. Sound eager to look after myself financially.

* Regain the light in my eyes, by hook or by crook!

* Do NOT think about H and what he is up to! I have not been to 'that' website for a while now and feel better for it.

* Ellie, will ask around about babysitting and enrolling for a dance/self-defence class.

I need to come up with some 180s too. Will have to put on my thinking cap...

Anyone got anything go add?

Livnlearn


"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates