H called this evening. He had a blocked nose and told me he had had flu symptoms for the past few days. I said, you sound bad.

Said he was coming down on Wednesday, did I want to have lunch with him (and D)? I said, I don't know exactly what my work programme this week is, so I would let him know later.

Honestly, I feel tired of being jerked around, as I feel I have been for a long while now. I can't afford to eat out, and I imagine H would like to eat here... but I have left my options open like this. Let's see.

Then H talked some more about stuff, his work etc. I told him about a book I had seen that I almost got him, but didn't in the end as it was interesting but wasn't really THAT nice. H's birthday is later this month. I don't go in for astrology, but Underdog, if you are reading this, I am an Aries married to an Aquarian, like you...

H said that the kid of w3 is around every other weekend so he would like to synchronise D going up on those weekends, as although there is a huge age gap, it is nicer for D to have some kid around that none. It turns out that the kid is w3's from a previous relationship, and her BF is not the father, and neither does he live with her, he just comes up at weekends.

Then H said that the BF is an A**hole, insufferable, a bully etc, everyone thinks so except w3. He can't understand it. Now, where have I heard that before?

Anyway, H sounded quite chatty and OK with me. Hmmmmm.

Whatever.

So -

I talked and was friendly for a while but was the one to end the call.
I told him about the book so although not gushing, let him know I thought about him.
Didn't refuse or accept the invite straight away, leaves me with options and not always the one being controlled.

Livnlearn

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates