I agree a lot of what you or any of us and the WAS have to go through seems unnecessary. I actually remember thinking that word exactly when dealing with D. It is like if you could just talk and try to conquer the problems together they would be dealt with so much quicker!
I think I was projecting on the Control. I always wanted to do for D and sort of take care of him. Which in a way amounted to mothering him and I think he saw it as control.
I think you are doing the right thing showing him you are building your life but willing to be helpful and friendly still. So you are still there but not just sitting around waiting for him to come back. You don't want him back because he is lonely or sees you as someone to take care of him.
So go LNL! Start your New Year off GREAT!!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
