Mojo - physical abuse is a whole other dimension. In that case, it is in the children's best interest not to have the abuser in the home - they need to grow up knowing that is not acceptable. And if the R with the WAS was always bad, before the bomb, then one needs to figure out what you are trying to save.
I was speaking to the more common sitch here, where the WAS really wasn't a bad person before the crisis that led to the bomb - in those cases, the bad behavior of the WAS is more a temporary aberration from their usual self.
