Thought I'd pop by to see you. Boy oh boy you do seem down. I can understand why though...not only is there an ow1 there's an ow2 also and ow1 = ex friend....that must have been a massive shock. I know how much i dislike ow and I don't even know her...so if she were a friend too....i think she would be close to death. Actually that happened to my boss...her h ran off with her best friend...I honestly don't know how she survived that...but she did!
Anyway, kml beat me too it. I haven't read all of your threads but I know the first lesson I learned from this board was that I had to detach. You're not doing that right now are you? You have to banish all thought of h and ow1/2 to the back of your mind. Don't waste time thinking about what they are/are not doing. Take what your h has to offer....ignore if the phone rings....let him play his silly games.....you just enjoy your life. It sounds like you're doing that most of the time.....now extend it to all of the time. That brings me on to the second lesson I learned here. You can't control him, her, your d or anyone else for that matter. They're going to do whatever it is they want to do.....whatever you do won't make much difference. The only thing you can do is be happy and get on with your life and enjoy.....that way you're more interesting for your h, ow1/2 and you d and anyone else you're involved with.
I'm off in a bit on my pub crawl. My friend's been moving house this week and she sounds so stressed and knackered so we'll let our hair down a bit. I straightened my hair earlier today...it looked so odd having tidy hair....it looked longer too. But then I went to the gym and now my hair is washed and wavy and sticking out again. Lol I love doing all of these new things. My h liked my hair short....I've had it trimmed but not cut since he left...that's 9 months.....so it's nearly long now. I'm going to the hairdressers on Thursday.....don't know yet what I'm going to do with it....think I'll leave it to her.
Anyway, have fun this weekend. I'll keep on watching out for how you're doing. But think about this....at least you talk to your h....mine ignores me.....and when he doesn't ignore me he's abusuive to me.
