H stays here a few days over Christmas but has to 'go into town' or 'go see a movie' on his own, ie, go meet up with OW 1. This will NOT be acceptable to me. How do I put my foot down about that not happening?
D said the other day, why can't her Dad just come and spend Christmas over here with us?
This time last year he had broken up with OW 1 and they were not in contact, I had started making overtures and had just started DBing. I went to spend Christmas with my family, but before and after he came and spent time with us. In emails he told me how depressed, devasted and suicidal he was and had been, but, it seemed, over the fact the OW 1 had dumped him!
This Christmas I have to face the fact the 'he has made his "peace"' with both OW, whatever that really means.
My feeling is that H has always been more attached to OW 1 than OW 2. She was his first band-aid of choice, and I think her leaving her husband is what precipitated my H leaving his family, for sure (I mean their concrete decisions to leave were made the same week!!)
H is supposed to come back to me soon about Christmas plans, any ideas on how to handle things?
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
