My WAW and I have only had sex 2 times in 3 years, both were this year on 01-01-04 and 02.01.04 (we seperated 07-01). I have not gone outside our relationship at all but I feel she has. When we talk about or even joke about sex in passing she withdraws and feels uncomfortable so I immediately stop.
We have a close "friendship" since seperating and we had a good sex life when we were together but now it makes her feel uncomfortable. We also have been married 9 years and have a 4 year old for which I have custody. When she drinks a little she loosens up and is at ease about it but the desire is not there. She can talk to female friends about sex in front of me and she is fine but something is just not connecting.
Even though we are seperated and have agreed not to divorce I feel that if we were to put that back into our relationship even in a small way we could begin to re-build our marriage and have a stronger relationship.
I would like to take her out of town for new years eve have fun at a party and see if we can start to re-connect.
Last year we went out of town together and had a great time then we crashed in a hotel room (neither of us was in shape to drive) and I casually stoked her fires and we had sex. She got up afterwards and said under her breath "why do I feel so confused"
