The reasons that I am not being as direct as you would like me to be are 1) at this point all I really know for sure is that the account is active and that is it, and I really am only operating on past knowledge as to assume what the account is still being used for, 2) I don't know for sure why it is still active and don't want to create a hornet's nest where there may not be one to stir up, 3) the last time I took the direct approach with my H about any of this when I did not have all the necessary evidence to support my accusations left a very bad taste in my mouth because he was/still is not fully repentant for his past behavior and has a nasty temper that I loathe to deal with unless I have good reason/evidence to support the confrontation and thus desire to be better prepared, 4) I am trying to give him the opportunity to explain to me about the account on his own, and 5) I am not ready emotionally to confront him. I hope these reasons help you to understand, SC. You are you and I am me. We each do things in our own way, yes? Patience, darling, patience. I am enjoying the toying.
Now, BMOW did NOT forward those two business emails to me. They came directly from the customers themselves. I forwarded the first to H who then forwarded it to BMOW. The second email I received today from a different customer. I responded to this one directly myself and forwarded my response to BMOW and my H, but when I forwarded my response, not only did I send the email to the business addresses for BMOW, I ALSO sent a blind cc to H's secret email account and BMOW's secret email account. BMOW didn't know that I knew of HER secret email account. Now I shall sit back and see what happens, if anything.
I am sorry that I frustrate you so, SC. This is what works for me.
LG--feeling in control, really!
A blessed and happy marriage is a union of two forgivers and Him, because...a cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12.
