I have to say I'm befuddled by your approach to this new development. You found the secret account, it is in use. This is against the NC agreement-- and even if it had not been specified, is just plain wrong.
I don't understand why you are taking such an indirect approach. You've sent him emails-- thus alerting him, and possibly precluding your opportunity to investigate further. But you are waiting to see what, if anything, he says?
Seems to me he broke a promise, you found out, and now you are letting him choose whether or not it will be discussed. Why not just ask him, straight up? It seems like candid communication is essential to any R, yours included. Pussy footing around serious issues is like ignoring the elephant in the living room-- and IMO, this elephant is sitting on you.
Now, I might just have a different take on this, since I like total honesty and prefer blunt/stright talk to evasive maneuvers. So I'm not saying I'm RIGHT, I'm saying that I don't understand why you're doing this, it makes no sense to me. So consider my thoughts, but even better, help me understand the reasoning of your approach, since it's something foreign to my feeble mind?
I am shocked that BMOW is forwarding business mail to you. I'd either ignore it, or "reply all" that you don't work for that company and this must have been sent to you in error....
