Quote: Wow, LG, you are handling this new discovery very well - especially after I'm sure you thought you had purged everything in your shredding frenzy. (That image still makes me smile).
I am glad that you think I am handling the discovery well of the letter I wrote BMOW over a year ago. I mostly just thought it odd that I would find the letter that I wrote to BMOW back in my house.
It really isn't something that upset me upon discovery. If it weren't bad DB practices, I might ask H what it was doing back in the house, but he isn't ready to discuss any of that in detail yet, if ever. He claims that if I want him to pour out all the details of his sordid affairs, he will grudgingly do it only in counseling, but it will hurt him terribly to do so and he sees no purpose it will ever serve me knowing all that he is guilty of doing. At this time, I have no rebuttal to that. Maybe I really SHOULDN'T know all that he is guilty of!
I have tucked the letter away for now. I actually made a photocopy of it before I sent it, in case I was ever accused of something I did not write to her. The photocopy is in a safe place also.
Yes, my step-D16 supposedly did a 180 change in her attitude toward me during her visit this past summer, however, I seriously doubt she ever felt the way toward me that her father claimed she felt toward me. All I really know is what her father told me she felt and that step-D16 and I had a good, long talk that she initiated, regardless of her feelings. Yes, perhaps my step-D found and read that letter and that influenced her "change" in attitude toward me. I don't know and see no reason to ask her, really.
BTW, if I currently found a key to anything of BMOW's in my H's possessions, I would simply throw it away. I wouldn't even ask about it if I was sure that is what it was. THEN I would act as if. Would it benefit you to do this in your case, plk? I am glad that my attitude helped you deal with your discovery.
Blessings, LG
A blessed and happy marriage is a union of two forgivers and Him, because...a cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12.
