Monday was our first official day of scheduled sex and it went okay. H was not in the mood but joked around with me trying to get in the mood and finally took matters "in hand" to make himself available. I tried to keep the mood "light" also and we ended up having a pleasant and pleasing but not terribly "hot" encounter.
Yesterday (Tuesday) was my H's bday. I gave myself a bit of anxiety trying to figure out what to do about "birthday sex". We weren't scheduled for sex, so what should I do? Should I assume that he would best appreciate no offer and therefore no pressure or should I make the offer but be super-friendly about a turn-down or what? I really was trying to figure out what he would most appreciate (I did all the other things I usually do for his birthday. I made him a grand-slam breakfast, his choice for dinner, baked him a cake, bought him a present and took my daughter to buy a present from the kids).Finally, I decided to just ask him in the evening if there was anything else he'd like me to do to make his birthday special. He said he'd really appreciate it if I would go out and get some more spring water because we were low. So this is what I did with as much goodwill and grace as I could muster.
Negative thoughts about husbands who like spring water better than sex tried to prevent me from getting a good night's sleep, but I managed to shut them down. This morning I find myself simultaneously in possession of a good mood and a bad attitude.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
