2ndChances5 thanks for the kind reply and the LTR definition. I have a long list of terms (6 months of reading 4 web sites) in a wordprocessor file, LTR was not there. Palm of hand swiftly to forehead reaction here.
BTW, I now think I should have answered JJ post playing her H, not a stranger. I think it would have helped JJ more than what i posted.
{{soap operas, and Desperate Housewives.}}
W watches one soap at lunch, I kind of watch. They have such far out plots that are supposed to look serious, sexy, dangerous, or what ever, that I find myself saying, never in a million years, or I start laughing at what is going on. Too much Discovery Science and History channel might be my problem?
I never watched the Desperate Housewives so I do not know what goes on there. I love the Wife Swap series. Especially when the compulsive spouse backs off and the famalies benefit as a whole. I see the characters as being real but extreme. I also see them haming it up to make the show more interesting
{{Frankly, I usually just wanted the sex}}
Sounds like a very good mental attitude and I think you reasons are noble, that is me too BTW. I have been in a situation occasionaly where I did not do enough, or do something on time and have been subject to lack of nookie until I made amends, sometimes justified, other times it seemed like passiv/agressive payback.
{{....reasons/situations in which you would not follow .....make sense, and show that you are able to think with the big head, even if the little one is tempted.}}
The little one speaks loud and clear and even gets me shaking in my boots sometimes.. Then that 50's moral stuff and the Kohlberg Moral Development stuff starts to kick in. I put my mind in the womans place, then a potential childs place, and finally is what I am thinking of doing, is it good for society. Here is how that goes.
If I were the woman what was I really after? If I did follow through and the woman got PG and I was the fetus would the adult relationship last to raise the child? Would I as the fetus choose both of the adults to be my parents? As a man, If I could see the future, would I be proud of all of the outcome.
However I am rethinking my standards. No possability of woman getting PG, medical and mental histories honestly shared, similar reasons for the relationship seems more reasonable. The get what you can attitude is still not my style.
I read all of your posts by clicking on your screen name. I did not see too much of your situation (problems with your H or things you wanted to do), did I miss something.
OG Lou Trying to clarify some of my internal issues for now.
