Quote: Maybe, just maybe, the whole LD/HD thing is exponentially enlarged when it is used as the avenue for a power struggle? It's about who is in charge, who is going to get their way.
Oh, yeah, I'd agree with you 100 percent, 2ndchance. My W may have issues with abandonment, past emotional abuse, and maybe even those weird evil/male/sexdrive issues, but when coupled with her need to be IN CONTROL, there is no budging her.
Which is why, I think, that the "I won't spend my life in a sexless marriage" statement is perhaps the only way to move toward my goal. But only if I am willing to back it up with action: moving out of the bedroom, moving out of the house, legal separation, etc. Either way, I'm moving toward my goal, which is to have a live wherein intimacy is a normal, natural occurrence. I just hope it is with my W and not with someone else, post-Divorce.
