The other day I was trying to express my preferences for aggressive sex to my H. I reminded him of a particularly hot, throw-down encounter we had this summer. I said "I love it when you're super-horny like that.". He said "That's what you want? For me to be super-horny?". He said this like he didn't quite believe me and I was unlikely to get what I wanted. As though I had said something like "My life will be perfect when I win the lottery.". SIGH.
Another psychological difficulty in dealing with my LDH is that he seems to believe that high drive men are brutish. Therefore, I am wrong-minded in believing that I might be more compatible with a HD man because if I had a HD husband he would probably cheat on me or beat me or only f*ck me on top of the washing machine with no foreplay etc. I blame society for this problem because it is probably due to the fact that men rarely talk to each other about sex in anything but a brutish manner.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
