Jenny wrote:
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The next logical step given my current sich, IMO, is to actually get some hard data from him about how long this "hiatus" is going to last and what exactly our new sex schedule will be. I am not looking forward to this encounter. I am also not looking forward to dealing with the problems that I can easily predict will arise with scheduled sex such as "calling in sick" or showing up utterly passive. I probably should just tell him that he's in charge of making the schedule and setting the start date, but he needs to bear in mind that I physically crave sex at least every 3 days with cyclical variations and I prefer for him to be aggressive and MOST IMPORTANTLY, I will measure his level of committment to our ongoing relationship by the effort he puts into making this scheduled sex plan an ONGOING success.
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I think that is a good plan. I also understand the difficulty you face. Perhaps you need to delineate the difference between an excuse, and a reason, for him :-)

Last night, I had to beg off our schedule. Yep, me, Mr. Sex. The REASON is that I have a hard time concentrating on sex during severe weather. While some may find that inEXCUSABLE, it was my REASON for being unable to perform.

If hubby can justify why everyday life is a reason to not have sex with you, then maybe you should cut him some slack, otherwise, don't be shy ;-)

What is really odd for me, is that my wife could have sex during severe weather.... I just have this thing about being found dead and naked in a bush, with a stupid look on my face. Hmmmm.... maybe that's not so bad after all... :-)

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.