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[MJontheMend]

"Hubby, your complaints about stress are bull. Statistically, there are going to be less that 3 short periods during our entire life together that are going to be stress free. Let's talk about a schedule to reduce the stress of deciding when we can have sex. Frankly, I am sick of the variability."

This is basically what I did end up saying. I have said it before. Our main problem at this point might be that my H HATES it when I say this. IMO the reason why he hates this is because he prefers to see himself as a HD man who has suffered from circumstantial bad luck in encountering libido killers rather than as an LD man looking for excuses for not confronting the problem directly. Last night he basically told me, angrily, that he doesn't like it that I'm implying that he's just making excuses. The tricky thing is that, obviously, I'd love to believe that he's a down-on-his-libido-luck HD guy too.

The next logical step given my current sich, IMO, is to actually get some hard data from him about how long this "hiatus" is going to last and what exactly our new sex schedule will be. I am not looking forward to this encounter. I am also not looking forward to dealing with the problems that I can easily predict will arise with scheduled sex such as "calling in sick" or showing up utterly passive. I probably should just tell him that he's in charge of making the schedule and setting the start date, but he needs to bear in mind that I physically crave sex at least every 3 days with cyclical variations and I prefer for him to be aggressive and MOST IMPORTANTLY, I will measure his level of committment to our ongoing relationship by the effort he puts into making this scheduled sex plan an ONGOING success.