Quote: ------------ know my inability to deal with this setback in a PM perfect manner is at least partially due to the fact that my H's recent model behavior outside of bed has caused me to become more emotionally-fused to him. I've allowed myself to enjoy Mr. Cuddles, so now it's harder to risk giving up other aspects of my relationship for sex. ------------
Argh.
So he slimed his way out of a minor bit of pressure. Just because you agreed initially to a hiatus because you got blind-sided does not mean you don't go back to the table for some re-negotiation.
"Hubby, your complaints about stress are bull. Statistically, there are going to be less that 3 short periods during our entire life together that are going to be stress free. Let's talk about a schedule to reduce the stress of deciding when we can have sex. Frankly, I am sick of the variability."
You might want to be a bit more tactful than me.
Also, I wouldn't worry so much about "fusion". Ultimately, you want to get to a place where both spouses work toward pleasing each other because it is what both spouses want to do.
It is okay to love your husband, even if you have to occasionally knock some sense into him :-) He has done a fair bit of growing up that last few months. He has come to realize that you are a damn fine woman. Imagine what the future holds for you two now versus a year ago. Don't be discouraged by the potholes in the road.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
