Yes, I do agree with you that I have some bitterness in me still over what he has turned out to be. It is not necessarily a "traditional" notion; that would imply that gender differences are culturally-based, only, and that is not the case. Men and women are different, in almost every way..physically, chemically, emotionally, etc. So it stands to reason that dealing with an LD man is going to be quite similar, in many ways, to an LD woman but the differences are going to be GLARING. That was the point of my original post, although I see that my message was diluted and misunderstood due to the fact that I was being bitchy.
I think a large part of the remaining problem is that I haven't quite forgiven him yet for being LD. He was not this way when I married him. In fact, he wasn't ANYTHING that he is now. He has changed so drastically that he is a shadow of the guy I met and married. I have adapted to all of his changes except this one. It is this last one that cuts the deepest and pisses me off the most. You may remember that I dumped a boyfriend of FOUR years right before meeting my H. The reason? He was LD and I had lost much of my feelings for him. So it was quite important to me to not repeat that scenario.
I do realize that I need to 'forgive' him for how things have turned out. It is not that I am holding on to loads of resentment over this; honestly it only crops up occasionally in my mind. I was just making a point of Yeah!!, as I was responding to JJ's post. I would liken it to a person who is married to someone with OCD; they are freakin irritated that their spouse has to check the stove 10 times before they leave anywhere. It doesn't make them stop loving them or want to leave but it makes everyday life difficult at times. That's how I view my husband's LD.
Jenny, I am so sorry to have steamrolled over your thread with my own topic of discussion. Please forgive me, friend!
