GEL posted in another thread: Your H is like mine in the fact that neither of them ever have to guess that we find them attractive and "want" them physically right? We show them constantly by wanting to ML with them. ----------------
Bingo! That's why I don't think it's a M/W thing but a HD/LD thing. A LDS may want to be "attractive" to his/her S, but HDS needs what she describes above.
Social sterotypes may make a LDH feel that he's a wimp because he doesn't want sex all the time w/his HDW, but a LDW will make her HDH feel wimpy because he's not strong/intelligent/disciplined/serious enough to refrain from wanting sex "all the time". What's the difference?
