Corri, I get what you're saying but this is not just all in my head; it's basic biology also.
Men have 20-40 times more testosterone than women. My H had normal readings of testosterone, last time we checked which was 6 yrs ago. So what does this mean? Why is my actual drive and desire for sex higher than his? I can tell you that I do not have one single feeling that he is holding out on me, or doing this to hurt me. His body is just not calling out for sex with the same strength or frequency that mine does. I believe him when he says this, Corri. I have no reason to believe otherwise, because the rest of his behavior backs this up lock, stock and barrel.
So do you see the added dimension I am talking about? Biologically speaking, he should be hornier than me. He isn't.
That has been a mental hurdle for me to get over. I had to lose the notion that I had done something to cause him to turn off of ME, cause he was a man and would biologically seek release, at least theoretically. As well as a whole other host of "shoulda's". But these shoulda's do have some basis in biology so it is extra hard to ditch them and understand that he is not withholding; he just really doesn't need it.
In fact, I will say this: I still don't understand how that happens, that a man who has a normal level of T can still be LD, but I will say that I accept that he is telling me the truth. I wish I could say I accept it, wholly and without question.
