I completely understand what you are saying...and I agree with you. Society does teach us as we grow that men think about sex all the time so when we marry and find our H doesn't fit this "norm" it's very disturbing and confusing.
Not that it wouldn't be just as disturbing and confusing to our H's that all of the sudden someone is pointing out to them that they aren't the sexual animals men are portrayed as being.
I mean...as we grow up we don't generally hear about men complaining they have a headache...it's always the woman who puts of sex with this excuse. So it's almost as if in many ways it's an expected thing that women would be the gender that would turn away from sex (not that I could ever understand it myself).
I have absolutely no doubt though that the HDH has just as tough a road to travel towards solution...it's all a matter of getting the LD partner (regardless of gender) to understand that the lack of sex/intimacy in the R is a real issue that threatens the M if not addressed.
You know...I remember being married to my ex and thinking "is all you think about sex?!"...ok to be honest with you..."sex and beer?" Now I know there have been times my H has thought pretty much the same thing.
No matter which end you are on and which gender you are...it's frustrating to the point of wanting to pull your hair out while listening to the "slit your wrist blues"!
