HP wrote: --------------- Jenny summed it up much better than I did. That the LD man has a very difficult time admitting that he is LD and taking the proper responsibility for that. The wives at least admit it and are up front about what they will or will not do about it. Too many times the husbands are incommunicado. ---------------
I understand what you (and Jenny) are saying. What I am saying is that the real problem (relationship) is simply being couched in terms of finger pointing.
I also understand that all of us want to be 'special' in some way. That extends to us circumstantially. We all want to have special circumstances. In practice, even if it were true, it offers little to no help for the underlying problems.
I don't believe that either side of the coin is more noble or more beset by wrong perception. The coin is a coin and is has its intrinsic value only when considered a whole coin, not heads or tails.
If you want to continue the improvement in your relationship, the 'need to blame' is the very next thing that you must address.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
