Nopkins - when you reached the end of your rope did you let go or did you tie a knot and hang on? What I mean is. Did you mentally let go and take advantage of the seesaw effect or did you really dig in to your marriage as a project? I find myself alternating between those approaches and I can't always figure out what causes the progress or the regressions.
I think that Jenny is feeling something akin to what I do. We desperately want our spouse to want to have more sex because THEY WANT TO and YET the only thing in the relationship that seems to create more sex is pressing (aka forcing) them to be sexual out of a sense of obligation to the marriage. That feels like crap. I know there is no magic pill and I cannot tell you how we appreciate the wisdom of you and Mrs. Nop.
Karen, who is looking for her mojo before heading home
