HP wrote: ------------- Because we wives are married, after all, to MEN.
Men who do not like to be told what to do, or controlled. That's why Journey's husband had to throw that stupid remark in..just so he can re-establish the pecking order, so to speak. And I mean that in the kindest way. He probably was not even aware of what he was doing but it is his way of saying 'I am my own man'. -------------
Careful, men are not the only people on the planet with selfishness issues. Even biblically, I believe that it was Eve that made a rather bad unilateral decision in her relationship :-)
Control issues also cross the gender gap.
What you are doing is to attempt the working out of a relationship by finger pointing. I will tell you that it doesn't work, and that you are wasting your time and emotional energy.
I do understand your frustration, however.
QUOTE: ------------------- But I have to believe that it is far easier to get a woman to cooperate in matters of relational repair than it is some of these stubborn jackass men. -------------------
In my experience, it was just as hard to initially get MrsNOP to "cooperate" as it has been for you, or maybe harder. I spent a bit over a decade complaining about my situation.
You simply can not force anyone to change in a relationship. Therein lies the clue to the resistance you are encountering.
Your husband has to want to address your relationship issues. The exercise and the real goal is to get him to the point that he wants to work WITH you for the sake of the relationship.
Do you remember my post on passion?
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
